Wedding wisdom from Father Of The Bride

I sat down on Saturday night to watch my all-time favourite movie… (I’ll give you a hint: there was a wedding dress and sneakers and, okay I’ll just tell you, it’s Father of the Bride.) It might be a bit old-fashioned (there are shoulder pads for days) but I love this film. It’s got Steve Martin falling into a pool. It’s got Martin Short putting on the world’s most annoying accent. And, it turns out, it’s got nuggets of wisdom about the wedding planning process, too. Here’s what you can learn from the ‘90s classic…

“I used to think a wedding was a simple affair. A boy and girl meet, he buys a ring, she buys a dress, they say ‘I do’. I was wrong.”

Oh, sweet, naive George Banks… Of course, a marriage can be simple (it really only takes a few forms and some legally required vows and, hey presto, you’re hitched!) but when you start getting into ‘wedding’ territory things become a lot less simple. There are so many things to think about – the venue, the guest list, the food, the music, the flowers – that it can take 12 months of calling and emailing and organising to pull it all together. Which brings us to…

“We don’t need some fancy wedding coordinator.”

Remember when George wanted to have the wedding at The Steak Pit. Yep. Thank god for Fraaaanck. Wedding planners and coordinators aren’t just for fancy, rich folks – they’re basically just professional organisers who can be invaluable for anyone who doesn’t have the time or the energy to pull together an epically memorable event on their own. They can liaise with vendors, help guide you through big decisions and make sure the big day runs super-smoothly.

“$1200 is a very reasonable price for a cake of this magnitude.”

News flash: Weddings can be very expensive. And it’s not just because you used the word ‘wedding’ when you booked and now your vendors are trying to fleece you. It’s because often what you’re booking for your wedding is a specialised service or product that’s created just for you. Don’t want to spend $1200 on a six-tier cake? Go for something for more basic and spend the cash in your budget where it really matters to you, whether that’s a killer photographer, an amazing celebrant or an unforgettable honeymoon.

“Talk about surprises. It hasn’t snowed in LA since I was nine.”

Weather has a way of throwing the most spannery spanner in the wedding works. So, for goodness sakes have a weather Plan B. Whether it’s sudden snow, an unexpected shower or extreme heat (no one wants to swelter their way through your ceremony in full sun) – if you’re having an outdoor wedding, you should have a back-up plan for whatever Mother Nature throws at you.

“The florist had to thaw out our tulips with a hair dryer.”

The lesson here? Pick the right vendors and they will go above and beyond for you. You might only be walking down the aisle once in your lifetime, but your vendors do weddings every week. So, try not to stress about the little things – most vendors know what to do when a problem pops up because they’re prepared and they’ve seen it all before.

“Are you thinking about how this is going to cost you more money? No, how I’m going to remember this moment for the rest of my life.”

This is my favourite line from the whole movie because I think it sums up the true sentiment of a wedding. It’s not about the napkins you choose or the flower arrangements on the table – it’s about the memory that your making with your other half, and all your nearest and dearest people. Hopefully, a memory that will last a lifetime.

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